I absolutely LOVE asking you guys what you want to see more of on the blog because it helps funnel through the things that you love reading about and I was pleasantly surprised to hear how much you all love my self-care posts and such. I know sometimes I get personal on here and just vent about life in general (even though it has nothing to do with fashion/beauty) but I think it’s important to sometimes just be REAL and talk about what comes to my mind.
Although the photos on blogger pages may seem pretty and perfect, to me it’s important to be real and honest and just talk about normal things that we all think about. I recently posted on IG stories asking you to let me know what you want to see/read more of and these personal posts came up quite a bit so here I am doing yet another for you. Today it’s one that means a lot to me – know your worth and learning the importance of self-respect.
Listen, we’ve all been there — feeling victimized by a friend or significant other that treated you unfairly. We tend to sometimes blame the other person but what I’ve learned along the way is although you can’t prevent people from acting the way they do, you can however choose if those people deserve a place in your life. It took me a while to figure it out but I ultimately feel like I have. You allow people to treat you the way they do. And trust me, I’m not perfect and I’m guilty of making mistakes quite often.
In my life, I’ve worked to create a great career, build friendships and focus on family. With friends, I’ve learned to embrace the fact that everyone is unique in their own way. I’ve come to learn that some people will become lifetime friends, some are social and some are just acquaintances. I’ve learned to appreciate what each friend can bring to the table and why they have a place in your life. It’s something I feel comes with age and you start to figure it all out.
Now when it comes to romantic relationships, I used to tend to be more tolerant and I’ve definitely learned to fix this. I’ve tolerated men who didn’t appreciate me, value my heart, and who took advantage and disrespected me. Basically, I used to allow men to not treat me for what I was worth and to be honest, I think a lot of women do the same. It took me about 28-29 years of this to finally wake up and realize that the most important relationship I have in life is the one with myself. I’ve learned my worth, and evolved to the person I am today. I’ve learned not to make excuses for myself and to just own life the way it is and the situations that come with it. Sometimes they feel shitty, sometimes they feel great but that’s how you evolve to become a more well rounded person in the end.
I just thought this was an important topic to hit on because it took me a while to be confident enough to figure this out in life. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than you’re worth – trust me, they are just dumb. I am not perfect, I’m constantly growing, evolving and working on my bad habits but those flaws and imperfections are who I am.
As Marilyn Monroe best put it, “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
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